It’s easy to have a good time when everyone agrees about everything. You laugh at the same jokes and see eye to eye about what’s right (or wrong) with the world.
In fact, when we grow up, it’s often the people who agree with us most who become our friends.
But times goes on. And you discover that life is more complicated than you once thought it was. With each passing year, you start to realize that more and more people think differently than you. Maybe not about everything, but certainly about some things.
This makes some people frustrated and drives them to distance themselves from anyone who thinks differently.
But it can make other people more humble, driving them to learn more, and to love more.
Here’s what I’ve come to find. That disagreement and friendship don’t have to be allergic to one another. In fact, as the years go on, and as you become wiser, expecting disagreement—and even welcoming disagreement—can actually enrich friendships to a new level of respect and intimacy.
As David Kinnaman and Gabe Lyons say, “By making room for disagreement, you make space for friendship.”
It’s okay to disagree with someone. It’ll probably happen to you today! But when you disagree in a way that is humble, respectful and loving, friendships can go from cheap to deep.
I Peter 2:17 gives us some motivation: “Honor everyone.” (Even when you disagree.)
Show humility, respect and love. And go from cheap to deep.
“By making room for disagreement, you make space for friendship.”
By Matthew Ruttan