Who is Jesus to you? Is he a teacher, a saviour, or a shepherd? Surely all of those things. But what about a friend? In John 15:15 Jesus says this to his disciples: “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for … Continue reading Nurturing faithful friendships
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Keeping confidences and lifebuoys
William White tells a story about two men who went from house to house seeking funds to help with someone who was sick. They went to the house of a rich man hoping he could help. The rich man wanted to know who the sick man was. He was willing to give a financial donation. … Continue reading Keeping confidences and lifebuoys
Be a place of sanctuary
Sanctuaries are called sanctuaries for a reason. People fleeing from danger find refuge and shelter in a sanctuary. Literally, “sanctuary” means a sacred or holy place. As strange as it might sound, you can be a sanctuary for someone else. In saying this I don’t mean to suggest that people can climb into your chest … Continue reading Be a place of sanctuary
A shared sorrow and a shared solution
There are times when you go through something challenging. You’re downcast. People can tell. They ask you if you want to talk about it. “Oh no,” you respond, “you’d never understand.” They say: “Try me.” So you share something about your struggle—just a little, not a lot. But it’s just enough for that other person … Continue reading A shared sorrow and a shared solution
When promises are stabilizing handrails
The writer of Psalm 116 had been through trauma. He cried out to God for help and received it. To show his appreciation he said: “I will fulfill my vows to the LORD…” (verse 14). It’s telling that fulfilling his vows is a part of how he shows his gratitude. Since God had been true … Continue reading When promises are stabilizing handrails
Healthy venting
There’s a difference between grumbling and healthy venting. My name isn’t Funk & Wagnalls but here’s how I would define the difference. “Grumbling” is reactionary, undisciplined, and envelops others in the cloud of your verbal fumes. It’s common in an era of quick clicks, posts, and chronic noise. But in contrast, healthy venting is deliberate … Continue reading Healthy venting
Not just what you say, but how
I’ve spoken with dozens of people looking for advice about how to speak more confidently about their faith—more specifically, to those who don’t share that same faith. Jesus is very special to us. So we want to speak of him well, and to say something that is compelling to others. This can be especially hard … Continue reading Not just what you say, but how
Are others as messed up as you?
Being aware of your own sin can improve your relationships. I realize that might sound counter-intuitive. When we think of sin we tend to think about how it makes things worse, not better. Yes, I understand that. But those who appreciate the gravity of their own brokenness tend to be less judgmental and superior. They … Continue reading Are others as messed up as you?
A helping hand
All this week we’ve been thinking about Jesus’ words in Luke 6:31: “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” This verse takes a second to say, and a life-time to try to live out. But since these worthy words are from the lips of King Jesus, it’s definitely a noble and … Continue reading A helping hand
Guessing at people’s motives
This week we’re considering Luke 6:31: “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” It can be tempting to over-simply this idea. That’s what we do when we say it’s “just about being nice.” Well, being nice is good—but it steers us away from thinking more deeply and intentionally about how to … Continue reading Guessing at people’s motives
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