“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (ESV)
I wonder how many decisions a raccoon has to make in a day. Get up? Or stay sleeping? Stay in the bushes? Or jump out and terrify that kid? Pry open that garbage can? Or pry open that garbage can?
I’m pretty sure that we humans have more things to decide than that. In fact, Princeton philosopher Walter Kaufmann coined the phrase “decidophobia.” It means “fear of making decisions.” What he noticed was that humans can sometimes get panicked or afraid of making decisions because they don’t want the anxiety or worry that goes with being wrong!
As a husband, parent and pastor who is involved with a lot of different things, I have to make decisions all the time. And a lot of them are pretty significant. But if I continually run through “what if” scenarios in my spare time about all the things that could possibly go wrong, my worry index would shoot through the roof.
Instead, I do my best to make solid decisions and not look back. Here’s what I do: I pray, read the Bible, consult someone who is smart, and then decide.
Is it foolproof? No. But it is a way to lessen your worry and make more confident decisions starting today.
Here’s an easy way to remember it: Pray, read, consult, repeat.
Second guessing yourself all day (or night) long is like continually jumping up and down in a barrel of knives. Why would you keep doing that to yourself? Instead, pray, read and consult yourself out of the barrel and over to the green grass on the next lot.
Life is tricky. If you were a raccoon, maybe not so much. But you’re a human. Therefore, tough decisions are a part of life.
So pray, read, consult, repeat.
Don’t be so worried about making the wrong decision that you never end up making the right one.
By Matthew Ruttan