Yesterday I shared a definition of humility inspired by C.S. Lewis: “Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself, but of yourself less.”
That means true humility isn’t self-defeating or self-deprecating. It’s about putting God’s will and the interests of others first. In this way you “lose yourself” because you’re not overly concerned with your reputation, your status, or looking good in the eyes of others. You just want to serve God and care for his people.
‘Sounds nice, Matthew,’ you might say, ‘but how? How do I learn to be more humble?’
Here’s one idea among many: When you need help, ask for it.
If you need help with something but don’t ask for it, it might very well be a pride issue. It’s anti-humble. It’s being so stubborn that you would rather appear a certain way to someone else—“strong,” “independent,” or “self-reliant”—than reach out and actually improve your situation.
James 4:6 says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Pride is a me-first commitment to journey alone. But when you acknowledge that you’re not ‘all that and a bag of chips,’ and when you care more about God’s will and caring for others than you do your selfish me-first agenda, I think God breathes grace into your situation.
If you want to grow your humility, ask for help when you need to.
Pride is a me-first commitment to journey alone. Humility is a God-first commitment to journey together.
“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”
By Matthew Ruttan