A love-first mentality

“Do everything in love” (1 Corinthians 16:14).

Jesus had a love-first mentality. Therefore, we also want to have a love-first mentality.

Love isn’t wishy-washy or wobbly. It is a resolute commitment to seeking the good of others. It honours God and is often self-sacrificing.

But it takes some work. Our default setting is to take a me-first mentality. This is a part of our sin nature. It is natural for us to be selfish. So we need to be intentional and seek God’s help if we want to re-program our thinking to seek his will first and attend to the needs of the people around us.

Greg Nettle tells a story about sponsoring a child in Ecuador. When he and his wife visited her they gave her a bunch of candy. The child immediately turned around and distributed the candy to everyone else on the bus. When the child turned around she didn’t have a single piece of candy left for herself. But her friends were now happy!*

Self-sacrifice is about putting others first. While it might make us think about someone literally laying down their life for a person or cause, or adopting abandoned children, or selling your beloved possessions to fund a dangerous mission trip, it also includes daily decisions to put other people’s needs before your own wants.

Like a child giving away their candy. 

Adopt a love-first mentality. Put their needs before your wants. “Do everything in love.”


–“Bleedership.” Sermon. March 26, 2023. Click here.

–“An interview at Life 100.3FM about The Up Devotional, Christian radio, music, and God’s work at church.” I was invited to share some thoughts at Ontario’s Christian Superstation recently. Here is a podcast of my talk with David Mann and Steve Jones. Click here.

–*Greg Nettle and Santiago “Jimmy” Mellado, Small Matters (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2016), 38.

–Bible quotes are from the NIV.

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