It’s probably a problem if other people are always the problem.

Let me explain.

Have you ever had one of those days where other people are always a problem? They say the wrong thing. They get on your nerves. They just don’t “get” you. They just seem so… annoying!

Granted, there are times when people say the wrong thing, get on your nerves, don’t get you, and are very much annoying.

But when you’re having one of those days when everything absolutely everyone does is like that all the time… 

They might not be the one with the problem. 

Over time in the history of Christianity, a list of “seven deadly sins” developed. There really isn’t a definitive list, but these were common sins that we struggle with. One of them was (and is) anger. Each sin also has a counter-virtue. For example, the opposite of pride is humility. Well, when it comes to anger, the opposite is patience.

One of the places patience comes up in the Bible is Galatians 5: “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience…” In Greek, the word is “makrothumia.” My Louw and Nida dictionary defines it like this: “a state of emotional calm in the face of provocation or misfortune and without complaint or irritation.”

True, but easier said than done! 

That’s why it’s important to notice whenever everyone else seems to always be the problem. When that happens you’re probably irritated or just-under-the-surface angry.

Notice. Take a breath. Ask for the Spirit’s help. Re-centre.

In the longer term, study God’s character. Observe how he provides for you and directs you. Get some rest. Seek to grasp the depth of your own sin and selfishness. Thank God for his grace toward you in Christ.

It’s probably a problem if other people are always the problem.

Constant irritability or anger can be a sign that you’ve lost appreciation of the patience that God has already extended to you a thousand times over.

Notice. Take a breath. Ask for the Spirit’s help. Re-centre.

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Notes:

–Sermon: “Spiritual Gifts 101.” Click here.

–Bible quotes are from the NIV.