Are you a people-pleaser?
A people-pleaser is someone who wants to make other people happy all the time. And that’s not always a bad thing.
The problem is when your own sense of self, and even your own happiness, is too closely connected to your desire and capacity to please or appease others.
I get it. As a pastor, there can be a temptation to “keep everyone happy.” But I’ve come to the realization that…
(a) it’s impossible
(b) it stresses me out
(c) keeping everyone happy isn’t the purpose of life
(d) it’s often at odds with God’s will!
I think this is what Paul was getting at when he wrote, “If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ” (Galatians 1:10).
My point is this: Strive to be a Christ-follower not a people-pleaser.
Your identity, confidence and purpose is in him… not in your capacity to make others like you. (That’s a game with about as much of a chance at success as a roller coaster unhinged from its tracks.)
As you go through your day, simply ask yourself: Am I doing _______ to more faithfully follow Christ, or to please people?
Strive to be a Christ-follower not a people-pleaser.
By Matthew Ruttan
—Click here to see a short video about Part 4 in the Heaven and Hell series that I’ll be talking about this coming Sunday.
—Bible quotes are from the New International Version.